To all the perfectionists of the world,
I often come across many of my patients who are perfectionistic in nature and that is not necessarily a bad thing. In actual fact, it is a great thing! We should all have and thrive for high standards.
However, my statement comes with a few conditions.........
- A perfectionist who is self critical and fear failure can be extremely self destructive.
- A perfectionist who is self critical, fear failure but have lots of skills will get away with it until the day when they are faced with a situation where they do not have the skills eg in parenting and relationships.
- A perfectionist who is self compassionate, self reflective but not self critical, and who understands that failures and mistakes are pathways to success will go a long way.
I wish you all the very best.