Thursday, June 16, 2011

Negative Self Talk in Children

If you have children, be attentative to their "internal self talk".  Use your "intuition" to pick up on these "internal negative self talk" eg "It is all my fault", or "Iam useless", or "nobody likes me" etc.  These "non helpful" self talk overtime can lead to a "core belief " of "Iam not good enough", and when coupled with anxiety, this can lead to a fear of being judged.

Becoming more aware of this is a bit of a skill, but like any skills, it can be learnt over time.

Be a "coach" to your child and help to turn those not so helpful thoughts into something more helpful.  For your child, as it might be difficult for them to conceptualized negative and positive thoughts, you can call them grey thoughts(ie negative thoughts) and yellow thoughts (ie positive thoughts).  This is the best time to help them before the thoughts becomes entrenched into a deep core belief.

Remember also that children learns subconsciously from our own actions and hence, be a role model for them.  Be aware of your own negative self talk and mould them into something more positive.

Hope this helps.

Dr Vin Family Doctor Australia @


  1. Brilliant post. And I like how you coordinate a book that goes with the topic. Well done. I'm going to put you on my psychology links as a resource!

  2. Hi Deb,

    Thanks for your comment. Iam in the process of learning how to add you to my links as Iam new to his whole blogging experience.

    Dr Vin
    Family Doctor @


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